In the wide world of dating, there are many options. Do you go for the flashy guy with the smooth smile, or the dude in the corner typing away on his laptop? The following are reasons why I think my fellow females should pay more attention to the quiet geeks and nerds, and less attention to the flashy boys.
1.) While geeks and nerds may be awkward, they’re well-meaning 9 out of 10 times. That smooth dude with the sly grin and the spider hands? Wonder what HIS intentions are… plus, I’ve never had a geek guy not call me when he said he would. Score major points THERE.
Some are awkward, but some are very capable of handling themselves around the other sex. I have to agree with her when she says that geeks/nerds do what they tell you they will do. They keep their word.
2.) They’re useful. In this tech-savvy world, it’s great to have a b/f who can make your laptop, desktop, and just about anything else that plugs into a wall behave itself.
This is absolutely true. I am employed by most of my female friends to fix their technological issues. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been called to fix their computers, or help them with software. It is an incredible advantage to have a boyfriend who is on your beck and call to help you with technology. Sometimes, we can even recommend or automate things to make your life easier.
3.) They’re more romantic than they’re given credit for. Ok true, their idea of romance might be to make up a spiffy web-page with all the reasons why they love you, with links to pics of you and sonnets and such… but hey. It lasts longer than flowers, plus you can show your friends.
This is not always true. We do give flowers, chocolates and all those cliched romantic offerings. However, added onto that, we can also etch our love into something that is more permanent like the internet. I have come to realize that sometimes such details are not meant for the web, if the other person doesn’t appreciate it. I learnt that from experience. So, guys, watch out for that.
4.) Due to their neglected status, there are plenty to choose from. You like ‘em tall and slender? There are plenty of geeks/nerds who are. You like ‘em smaller with more meat on their bones? Got that too.
I must say that this is absolutely true. We are indeed overlooked for the sleeker, slicker models of the male sex. There is a lot of choice, but that being said, some geeks/nerds keep in shape. Point in case, was my room mate during the ORNL internship. He had a chiseled body because he was very active.
5.) They’ve got brains. Come on now, how can intelligence be a bad thing?
This is perhaps the most important thing that we have to offer to you. Our brains are what gives us this status in society. We offer more to the relationship beyond the carnal. Geeks/Nerds need mental stimulation, and often look for girls who can offer that. A relationships with differing levels of intelligence almost never works out, because one person or both, feel that the relationship is not fulfilling. I got to say that some of us are modest about our brains, and some are not. The cocky ones are often jerks. So, watch out.
6.) Most are quite good at remembering dates. Like birthdates and such, especially if they know it’ll make you happy. Due again to their neglected status, they’re more attentive than guys who “have more options”. Plus, with all that down time without a steady girlfriend, they’ll likely have mental lists of all the things they’d love to do once they GOT a girlfriend.
We take relationships seriously. We remember dates because we know it makes you feel special. Also, you know that we always have you on our mind, and never forget. We pay attention to show how much we care about you. I don’t know about that mental lists thing though. There are a few things that we think about, but it’s not like we have a master plan layed out.
7.) Sex. Yep. Sex. I’m not really familiar with this myself, but I’ve friends who’ve been intimate with geek guys and it’s raves all around. They say a virgin wrote the Kama Sutra… all that time thinking about sex, imagining sex, dreaming about sex, (they are male after all) coupled with a desire to make you happy? Use your imagination.
This is murky waters. I don’t really know what to say about it. The person who wrote the Kamasutra, was not a virgin, not by a long shot. He was one of the most sexually active sages in Hindu mythology.
8.) They’re relatively low-maintenance. Most can be fueled on pizza, Twinkies and Mt Dew. No complicated dinners needed here, so if you’re not the best cook, eh. Can you order a pizza?
We are low maintainance. A lot of us love cooking. We are happy to just spend time walking around, watching movies, and having a healthy conversation. Buying us memorable yet inexpensive gifts are enough to satisfy us. We don’t need designer brands, and expensive gifts. As long as the intention is pure, and invokes the right emotions, we are good.
9.) Most frequent bars as often as slugs frequent salt mines. You won’t have to worry much about your geek guy getting his “groove” on with club hotties because, frankly, he’ll be too busy rooting around under his computer wondering where that spare cable went. You won’t have to worry about him flirting with other women because, 9 out of 10 times, he’ll zip right by them in a perfect b-line towards the nearest electronics store. I’ve seen this happen.
Me: “Eww. Victoria Secret’s Models… They’re so skinny. How is that feminine? You can see her ribs!”
Geek Guy: “ooooooo…”
Me: “Hey!” *notices he is staring lustfully towards the computer store*
Geek Guy: “What?”
Me: “Never mind…”
Once geeks/nerds have girlfriends, they becomes their entire world. We don’t pay attention to any other girls because we are satisfied. Although, there are situations where the geeks get their groove on, especially if they know social dance forms like swing, salsa and latin. I know, I do, even if I have a girlfriend. While I dated, I loved dancing with other girls who knew to dance well too..
10.) Although he may not want to go to every outing with you, you can arrange swaps, as in, you’ll go to his Gamer Con dressed as an elf princess if he’ll take you to the ballet. Plus, if he doesn’t want to go someplace with you, you won’t have to worry much about what he’s up to. You’ll probably come home to find him asleep on his keyboard in a sea of Mt. Dew cans with code blinking from the screen. It’s ok. He’s used to this. Just toss a blanket over him and turn out the light.
I used this with movies. However, in the process of going to musicals, and other shows during swaps, I started appreciately that form of entertainment. And, if we are left alone, we are completely trustworthy, and when you get back, probably find us doing the geeky thing we were doing before you left. Hehe. Sad, but true, because we don’t get bored very easily if it keeps us engaged.
11.) His friends aren’t jerks. I can’t stress this enough. You’ll more likely get “Omg! A GIRL!! Can I see?!” than “Hey hot stuff back that ass up here and let me get some grub on…” They’re awkward geeks too and will, 9 times out of 10, treat you with the utmost respect and, more than likely, a note of awe. A cute girl picked one of their clan to date? It could happen to them! Hope! Drag some of your single girlfriends over, open up a pack of Mt. Dew, crack open the DnD set and get working. Nothing impresses geek guys more than a girl who can hack-n-slash (well ok maybe if she can code… a geek can dream).
I can understand this, but can’t relate to it, because most of my friends are female. We do have utmost respect for women, and often are outspoken advocates for female causes such are abortions, and equal opportunities.
12.) They’re rarely if ever possessive. They trust you, so you can be yourself around them. You like to walk around the house in a ratty t-shirt for comfort? He won’t care. He does too! They won’t get pissy if you don’t wear make-up or don’t want to bother primping your hair. If you gain a few pounds, they won’t try their best to make you feel like crap.
We do trust implicitly often, but we do get jealous if provoked to. I am possessive, and don’t mind the girl being possessive, as long as it doesn’t cramp my style. Who ever I dates needs to understand that I make female friends easily and tend to have more female friends than male. However, they are often my best friends, and always platonic. I am, and most of geeks are infinitely faithful.
13.) They’re usually very well educated. Physics majors and the like. See #5. You won’t have to listen to him blathering on about his car (ok maybe a little), he’ll have loads of other interesting things to talk about. Politics, world events, how much the chicken burgers down at the local place rock, so long as you douse them in hot sauce…
I can’t stress this enough. This is a cornerstone, and an absolute requirement for me. I need intellectual stimulation in a relationship, and if I can’t find it, I have to look for it elsewhere. We are interested and keep abreast with major happenings influencing our world. I am interested in basically everything. I love talking about anything from religion, politics, economics, science, and philosophy. I am not very well versed in music or arts but love learning more about them, as I go. We are well educated, and often, in the top percentile of the elite population. Oh, also, I’m a physics and math double major, and a first year phd student at PSU for materials engg.
14.) You’ll almost never have to hear, “Yaw dawg whazzap!!” plop out of their mouths. Unless it’s in jest. They spell properly, use correct punctuation, and are able to tell the difference between the toilet and the floor. They almost never get “wasted”, so you won’t have to worry about coming home to find him and his friends passed out on the floor amidst a pile of beer bottles. Mt. Dew cans, perhaps…
I have never slipped to slang in language. I pride myself in speaking and writing proper English, with correct grammer and spelling. We do get drunk, and pass out. Everyone does. I haven’t passed out or puked ever, but I know a geek fraternity at Coe that drinks like a school of fish.
15.) And the final reason why geeks and nerds make great boyfriends: They actually give a damn about you. Not how you look (though that’s a plus), not how skinny you are, not how much make-up you primp yourself up with, but they like you for you. That kind of thing lasts longer than “DaMN baby you got a fine ass!!!” Believe me.
If you can accept us for all of our imperfections, we can accept you for all your shortcomings and quirks. We like you for what you are. We like the person inside. Superficial romances are fleeting. We compliment you, and make you feel special. We often care more about you that you could possibly fathom.
So, yeah, we make excellent partners in life and love. We also make wonderful friends.
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